When Your Child Is Out of Control

When Your Child Is Out of Control

“My child is out of control!” I have heard this heartfelt cry so many times from parents who are frustrated at not being obeyed. But the problem is not simply a matter of exacting compliance. Let’s start by considering the complaint. When you say “out of control,” you...
Lighthearted Ways to Manage Your Child’s Behavior

Lighthearted Ways to Manage Your Child’s Behavior

It’s great when parents can correct a young child without provoking tension, conflict, and a power struggle. One way of doing this is to use some form of playful humor to make your point.  Some of the examples below work well in families with several children. ...
Teaching Your Child About Responsibility

Teaching Your Child About Responsibility

When a child breaks household rules, many parents invoke consequences. “Okay, that’s it,” they say. “No cell phone. No computer. No iPad.  No Wii.” Sometimes kids are grounded for months. Consequences of this sort are really just ordinary punishment, which usually...
Tips to Exterminate Tantrums

Tips to Exterminate Tantrums

One of my child clients, a smart, pretty redhead we’ll call Marcy, comes to see me after graduating from an extended day treatment program at a local clinic. Marcy, age nine, is healthy, strong, and stubborn. She is an unenthusiastic student at school, where she...